You are totally into cloth diapers. But what happens when you and your partner aren't both as excited? What can you do when you both are not on the same page about the cleaner, greener healthier diaper solution for your family?
This is your first opportunity as parents to make a big difference for your baby's health and comfort along with the health of the planet your child lives on and will raise their children on. It is also a great chance to start working on communicating as a parent. Don't you think it's worth discussing your choice? It is important not to be angry or accusatory, use our talking points to listen to each other's perspectives carefully and have a discussion.
Discuss the Benefits
You know all the reasons why you love cloth diapers but have you taken the time to discuss them to your partner?
Your Baby’s Health
Discussing the benefits to your baby of using a natural fiber diaper instead of plastics can increase awareness of what cloth has to offer. Many people are unaware that using disposables expose your baby to potential hazards (see website article for full details).
Think about what you would like wearing next to your skin for 2-1/2 years; cloth or a plastic?
Faster Potty Training
Did you know that our experience is that children in cloth diapers potty train faster? That might be enough to get your partner excited about it all by itself!
After a couple of years every parent gets tired of diaper changing, don't you want a way for your child to learn faster? On our service, when your child is ready (see our Potty Training guide), we supply training pants along with diapers as part of your service.
Better for Our Earth
In addition to considering your baby's health, think about using a diaper method that follows the Reduce, Reuse, Recycle philosophy! Disposables contribute 84 million lbs of FECAL matter into landfills per year! Not only is that gross, according to the World Health Organization it is illegal. This contributes to contaminated ground water.
Learning more may be enough to help others get on board with a cloth diapering choice.
Dealing with Objections
Another important part of the conversation is dealing with objections your partner may have. Take the time to really listen to what their objections are. Here are some of the common ones.
It is too messy.
Cleaning up poop and pee can be a messy job, but that's true for any kind of diaper.
Simply drop the soiled diaper in the pail and are done with it, just like you would with a disposable (no rinsing, no soaking). Instead of being in a hurry to get the job done, use diapering time to bond and play with your baby. Give soft kisses all over their tummy, kiss those sweet toes, exercise those little legs! Diapering time can be a time of extreme closeness.
Cloth diapers are expensive.
You can shop sales and use coupons on disposable diapers. With our service you can:
Have you noticed disposables are more expensive as your baby gets older? With our Potty Training Guarantee you get free diapers and/or training pants after 2-1/2 years (130 weeks) of paid service. The bottom line is - OVERALL costs are less with our diaper service, AND you are confident you are giving your baby's health the best option with a cloth diaper!
Too difficult to handle 2 pieces instead of one
Families tell us their children over 8 years old can diaper their baby so we are confident others can too! Just practice with the other person a few times and they will get the hang of it.
Making It Work
Connect With Others That Use Cloth
Learning something new is often scary; cloth diapering is no exception! If your partner seems hesitant even after logically understanding all the benefits, perhaps they just need to get more comfortable with the process. DyDee Baby has created videos to show you how in just a few minutes!
No one likes to be all alone, so the tipping point for your partner may just be helping them realize that there are many other families using cloth diapers also. Our Facebook page is a great place to share, ask for advice, and connect with other cloth diaper families. Be on the lookout for friends who use cloth diapers. Many families that are making healthy life choices or that regard themselves as Natural Parenting couples use cloth diapers.
In addition, you can also call or email the office any time with questions about diaper fit or concerns. Our staff used cotton diapers on their own babies and they have over 20 yrs of experience dealing with all sorts of issues that can come up; we are cloth diapering experts that can help you every step of the way!
Dividing the Work
If your partner really doesn't want to use cloth, you may talk about dividing the work in other ways. Maybe you handle most of the diapering, and they help in other ways with parenting or around the house. There is no right or wrong way to parent together. The most important is that both of you share your needs and feelings, and that you work to make the best decisions for your child.
Do you need more items to talk about? Here are some great resources to refer to!
Have You Dealt with This?
Have you and your partner worked through this together! We would love to hear your tips and strategies. Share in the comments below!
We have been providing clean fresh cotton diapers delivered straight to your door for over 30 years. We are also a family run business, with children and grandchildren of our own. Now let us share some of the parenting wisdom we have learned along the way!
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